KNOWING WOMAN BLOG, MAY 25, 2009
YOU'VE COME A LONG WAY, BABY!
The discussion held at Celestial Awakenings on Sunday May 24 on Knowing Woman, Nurturing the Feminine Soul, was deep, thoughtful and personally revealing. Members of the group had much to share, some of it quite astounding to me, a woman who grew up in the earlier part of the 20th century….
Here, I have written an entire book based on the discrimination women endured for millennia, describing my personal effort to get beyond that difficult beginning. How it affected my career, my marriage, my place in the world. My understanding of my personal spiritual growth is based on gradual growth out of that mire…from a woman who was expected to bear children, create the comforts of home, and supply all the needs of a husband….to an independent self actualizing person.
And yesterday I met a woman, 25 years old, who told us that she was in college before she first became aware that men and women are treated differently. She attended a class! Granted she grew up in the northwest, an area of the country known for its openness and non discrimination, yet there is no doubt in my mind that bias occurs every day here. Nationwide, women still are paid less than men and I know of no reason to believe that Oregon is any different.
Still, it was an eye opener to learn that my young friend does not suffer the point of view I had at her age. Things are quite different. One telling example: while she has been married for a year, she has no children and is planning a career that will help many people. I had married directly out of college at 20 and gave birth to my third child two months after my 26th birthday!
In response to my question, she wrote, "Men have changed too. My husband is very supportive, and we have open discussions about our life, and both consider each other's happiness, as well as our own, when we make decisions. I don't feel a need to serve him, rather a need to co-exist and co-create. I don't know if any of that helps. Not saying though that every young married couple these days has the same kind of relationship
....though I do think women in general now know they deserve more, and men now realize that they are a part of a team, not just the leader of a group." She's right: I have seen the same sharing relationship in the marriage of my daughter and son-in-law and in those of other younger family members.
I found myself in tears as I listened to another discussion participant describe life for two woman in the 1960's and 1970's from other parts of the United States….a complete contrast to our young friend born in the 1980's in the northwest. Even though their family backgrounds made a difference, and certainly the personalities and astrological signatures of each of the women have a huge impact on how they relate to life, there could be no mistake: the trials and tribulations of women for centuries have taken a significant turn for the better in the years since the 1970's when I was politically active.
For older women, yesterday I heard an affirmation, an ovation, for you for your efforts and the progress you brought about. For younger women, there's an unprecedented opportunity to genuinely contribute throughout your life.
That's the good news! You've come a long way, baby!
The Knowing Woman, Nurturing the Feminine Soul discussion series continues on June 7 from 2 to 4 pm at Celestial Awakenings. Contact Celestial Awakenings for details or write or phone me, Jo Garceau, 971-645-8099.